To understand why I am so calm now you’d have to have known me when I was younger.
I get a decent amount of flack for never really wanting to go out anymore.I no longer really live up to the name “Mayhem.” To be honest, I am cool with that. I got too much to lose.
I think as you age you learn that the vast majority of people in your life are just there for the noise. It doesn’t make em bad. We all cross paths at different phase lines in our lives.
But you fool yourself if you think the majority of the folks in your 20’s are gonna occupy a lot of your time in your 30’s and 40’s. Either you or them are gonna grow up. When that happens priorities change.
Love, despite what they sell you in movies is a finite resource. Relationships take work. So if you want to be a good spouse and parent, you only got a little time left to spread amongst your circle. That circle better has a shared vision for the future or conflict is coming, and your life is gonna get messy.
That “man” I used to be would have been a shit husband and a bad dad. You can’t serve two masters. So choose wisely. My suggestion is to make your circle small AF and put your family in the middle. Anything or anyone that doesn’t support that has got to go.