Stop me if you’ve heard this one. “I am deleting Facebook. It’s just too negative” or “I am purging my friends list, sorry if you don’t make the cut.” People take to the social media platform to dramatically share that they are cutting or purging all the drama from their lives. “Isn’t it ironic, don’t you think?”
I learned long ago a lesson that has stood the test of time. Those who tell the world they hate drama are always the initiators of it. The reason they can never outrun it is because they are carrying it on their back. The negativity you find is that which you went looking for. And the truth? You love it.
How do I know you love it? You keep finding it.
The truth is that we all go through this phase at some point or another. Mostly in our youth where we believe that we can change everything and everyone in the world. We stop finding it when we decide to grow up and focus on the things we can actually change. Now, don’t get me wrong, this isn’t a pessimistic post. I am not saying that you cannot change the world. You can. You just can’t change all of it. So it’s time to pick your battles.
That part took me a while to grasp. I wanted to right every injustice I saw. Stand up for every man, woman, and child. I wanted to “be the change.” But change takes time and sadly time is the only thing that all of us have in very limited supply.
That’s why social justice warriors actually accomplish so little. They are so busy trying to be involved in everything that they never accomplish anything.
When you pick up your “social sword” and wage “holy war” on every perceived slight known to man don’t be shocked that you’re exhausted by noon. When you try to be friends with everyone, don’t be surprised when you are loved by no one. When you take to social media to declare that you are removing the privilege of being friends with you on the internet, don’t be insulted that no one cared.
After all, we were just getting ready to “unfriend” you ourselves. We just weren’t going to be all dramatic about it.
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Some real truth right here: “Those who tell the world they hate drama are always the initiators of it.” Good points. You are not meant to fight every battle, only the ones you feel called to so that you can give them your all.
Amen! If you love everything then the truth is you really love nothing!